Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. - 1 Corinthians 13:4-7
One of the most powerful ways to communicate love to the people in your life is with words. Words matter. Yes, actions are necessary to back them up, but at the end of the day, you've just got to get some things said. Make it your goal to get these four phrases in your weekly, if not daily, vocabulary:
1: I love you.
Men, the key is to say it deliberately. Don't mumble it into the phone and then hang up. "Whew. I said it and it didn't get messy at all." Yeah well, it needs to get a little messy. Get her in your arms, look in her eyes, and get it said: "I love you." Or pull your kids to you, no matter their age and speak the words. They may fidget, but they'll remember and be altered by your genuine expressions of love.
2: I need you.
I've been praying that the bedrooms of every married couple reading this will ring with these words. How about it, men? In your private moments, tell that woman who has stood by you how much you need her. Go ahead: "My actions may sometimes communicate the opposite, but I want you to know that I know I really need you."
3: There is no one like you.
OK, ladies. Every man is one among millions. At work, he's one among thousands. At church, he's one among hundreds. So when he walks through that door each night, he desperately needs to know he is your one and only. He's first, highest, and best. Tell him.
And that leads to . . .
4: I thank God for you.
Tell your beloved spouse, children, and parents that they are a gift from God to you. Better yet, pray aloud together. Let them overhear you tell the Lord how grateful you are that God gave them to you. Wives, tell your husband, "Honey, you've worked so hard lately and I so appreciate the way you try to take care of our family and the energy and effort that you put into providing for us. Thanks for being a faithful man." Husbands, look for your opportunities to say, "Babe, thanks for one of the greatest meals I have ever had. What you made tonight was fit for a king." And after she picks herself up off the floor, she'll be like, "Uh, thanks."
Get the words said. Yes, it really matters. Expressing your love is a huge piece of making your spouse and your family the priority, lifelong relationship that God designed for you and that you all desperately want.
